I think bitterness falls in the spectrum, too, of toxic anger. Bitterness is like fresh anger that’s gone rancid because its cause was unexamined and not dealt with.

I like what you say about fear or hurt turning into anger. For me, I’ve often noticed that hurt turns into anger. I’m not so sure about fear… but maybe that’s because I am female, and it’s more socially acceptable for me to simply show that I’m afraid than it is for a male. (Just ask me about working at a dental office – I have gender tales to tell about fear!)

I know I’m female, but your last paragraph is intriguing, too. For whatever reason, I’ve noticed that many people equate screaming and yelling with strength. Yet, to me, I feel that screaming and yelling is a weakness. I admire those who can keep their calm while resolving things. Seems simple, but it affects so much of our perception. During the USA presidential campaign, for instance, I kept hearing people say they wished Obama would show anger towards McCain. I’m glad he didn’t, though, because to me, keeping your calm requires more strength of character.

Well… I could go on, but I suppose this is long enough!

~Tui